I may have figured out why people can stay disciplined and why some fail after a while (and also many other things)

I know this sounds like clickbait, but trust me it's legit and I came up with it myself lol.

So I've always had so many questions like:

1. Why can some people do things that seem impossible for others?
2. Why is it easier for some people to change?
3. How do some people make it stick?
4. Why is it that after you fail and fail and fail, at some point you just 'decided' that enough is enough?
5. Why does no self-help book really help, like atomic habits, etc.

I did 10 hours of research on reddit, came up with a lot of theories myself, but none were really convincing me. There was no theory that explained all of these questions, but then I figured it out. Now it makes sense why atomic habits doesn't really help, why motivation isn't reliable (but I already knew it), why changing beliefs can help but it depends, why people change after an X amount of failure, why it's easier for some to change, etc. I challenge you to find a fault in my framework, which I call the farting balloons framework.

There are two principles that you'll need to understand:

1. Imagine three circles**: struggling, disciplined, natural.** Everyone missed the point with the atomic habits book, because they are trying to go from disciplined to natural, but in reality, they're in the struggling phase. It makes sense that these people keep quitting eventually, because they're on even in the right phase. Atomic habits is only good for maintaining your habits so that it eventually becomes natural. Natural is the phase where an action requires no thinking. There is no resistence there. Only when you have gone from struggling to disciplined, thhen you can apply atomic habbits. Only then is it useful.
2. The farting balloons framework (I came up with this myself hehe): this framework says that when you're in the strugging phase, you're often presented with two choices: either you do the thing, or you don't do it. Both of these options have a balloon stuck to it and the balloon that is bigger is going to win. In other words, the one that has the biggest potential to fart is going to win, hence the name. Now here's the biggest revelation I got, because if you think about it, why does motivation sometimes work, why does changing identity sometimes work, why does experience sometimes work? It seems like there's usually one factor deciding one's decision, but that's totally wrong. It's a combination of everything, and all of these factors have the ability to make the balloon bigger or smaller. If you have a bad experience with something, you don't want to do it, thus making the balloon smaller. That's just one small example. But moving on, all these factors inflate or deflate both balloons and the bigger balloon is going to be the driving factor that makes your decision.

This framework literally explains why you sometimes are able to do things and sometimes not. It's because one of the factors inflated the balloons so much. Maybe because your motivation was so high, it made the balloon bigger than the balloon for inaction.

This framework also explain why people quit after a time, because the balloon is not static, it's dynamic. So after some time, your motivation change, beliefs change, you forget about things, etc. These factors will deflate your action balloon and at some point, your inaction balloon will be larger resulting in inaction. Some people notice this and then they get a boost in motivation, resulting in a bigger action balloon. You'll be able to keep up for a while, but it's only for a while. Your aciton balloon is still shrinking in the mean time and once it's smaller than your inaction balloon, boom you fail.

IF YOU'RE STILL NOT CONVINCED... This framework also explains why experiencing failure after failure can transform a person, because it makes it so that the action balloon inflates to an insanely large volume due to negative emotions AND it makes it so that the inaction balloon is abnormally small due to changes in belief (i.e. I HAVE to change). All these factors together decide how big the two balloons are going to be and the bigger one will win the battle, because it can fart louder.

I plan to put this framework in a free PDF that you can read in 30 min, so if you want that, let me know. I'm just excited that I finally have the answer that I was looking for. This is what makes the most sense to me and I probably missed some things, but I'll handle it in the PDF. Thank you.