I want to leave And I feel like a piece of shit

Excuse my grammar and punctuation I'm frustrated

I love him I do. But he's changed since marriage he always told me he wanted the same things but there's been no progress. In the 3 years we've been together I lost 100 lbs. I got my nose surgery to fix what my ex broke. I started therapy and got a new better job. New place and car. I one day want to move, travel and, buy a house. Mean while he's doing the same stuff.

He's great but he also come to find out is in major debt. He makes horrible financial decisions. We're married but he still stays at his house with his adult child because he enables him. I ask what's his plan as far as moving in with me and having his son take over bills at that house or having move with his mom. He has no answers for me. He tells me I need to be patient. Says I'm a narcissist. Weve been together for 3 years married for 7 months and there's no change. All we do is fight.

I feel bad because his dad passed away last year and I know that's hard to deal with so I tried to be patient. However I've been asking about this since before he passed.

I feel like we have different goals. He says taking care of his family is his priority. What am I? I'm here paying everything on my own so he can take care of his grown son. He's in his 20s and won't even go into a store by himself!! I understand being for your kid but there's a difference between being there and enabling them.

There's a lot more to this. It's a lot to explain but he's become manipulative since marriage. He makes me feel like I'm this horrible person say I just hate his son and often accuses me of cheating. He one time told me I have a "weird relationship with my uncle" because I told my uncle his cologne smelled good. He's insinuating I have a sexual relationship with my uncle WTF! I've changed. I've been so angry and that's not me.

I asked for a divorce. He says he won't agree because he loves me. He told me to wait. Wait until I miss him.

TL;DR I want to leave and feel horrible