It's the lack of connection and warmth and intimacy…

Hello everyone, I have posted on here a couple of times before, and I'm really grateful for this community. I've been married 14 years, and my husband needs almost all of the criteria for OCPD, possibly all. It seems to have gotten worse with age as well. I just recently told him that we need to separate. I've been trying to improve my financial situation before doing this, but it has been so hard to do that and I can't hold off any longer. I'm getting older, I don't want to be unhappy forever. The inflexibility, judgment and condescending attitude are more than difficult enough, but in my case – and I really wonder about all of you – my husband seems incapable of intimacy. His personality is actually a bit stiff in general, but just doesn't seem capable of deeply connecting or showing genuine warmth, and love and empathy. On the physical side, that's been gone for absolutely ever! I find that odd too for a man! I'm realizing I don't want to give that up in my life. Is controlling and in flexible and can really annoy the hell out of the kids, but he also gives them most of his free time and place with them and they love that and they love him. I'm terrified to be honest. But I'm also terrified of looking back in 20 years and thinking why the hell did I stay because we only get one life. Do many of you experience this lack of warmth and ability to connect as well with your OCPD?