Protection from a spouse who turns hair grey
Excerpt from Dr Kanwal Kaisser’s speeches on marriage.
You should not stop making supplications (duas). This is a very beautiful supplication.
Prophet (saw) said, “O Allaah! I seek refuge in you from an evil neighbour;
and from a spouse that causes me to grow old before old age;
and from a child who will become a master over me;
and from wealth that becomes a punishment for me;
and from a cunning friend whose gaze is upon me and whose heart is plotting and planning against me, such that if he sees something good, he buries it, and if he sees something bad he spreads it."
(Tabarani, Silsilatul Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah 3137)
We come to know that in married life, sometimes such problems arise from a spouse, where you end up aging quickly. Some say, “I used to have so much energy. I used to be so creative. I used to be so lively. I used to do a lot of work. Now I have gone into depression.”
So, make this supplication.
Before the spouse, it's mentioned about the neighbour. Sometimes the neighbour gossips, they keep telling you about things. They sometimes give wrong advice.
Children are mentioned, and protection is sought from them becoming masters. Just look—this is such a significant issue nowadays. What are children doing? They dictate to their parents. "Mom, Dad, I want this. Who are you to stop me? Who are you to tell me anything?"
Wealth is mentioned as not becoming a source of punishment.
And from such deceitful, manipulative friends, whose eyes are watching me and whose heart is constantly monitoring me, if they see any goodness in me, they hide it, and if they see any fault or wrongdoing, they spread it.
What a beautiful supplication this is.
Posted Jul 9, 2025, 11:17 PM UTC