The upcoming wedding feels so hollow to me now.

I was happy and hyped about it, to finally have my partner and me marry after waiting for years as we agreed to wait when I kept asking. Because he wasn't ready yet. Now the days come closer and I was looking forward to it despite the stress of organising all.

Some months ago a (former) good friend approached me and told me what she thought of my fiance and what she observed. I don't fully agree what she said and am not even sure if it would be enough for me to consider rethinking but it made me question myself nonetheless. I feel anxiety now. I don't want to go into detail what my friend told me. What he said are things I knew mostly but I didn't think much about it back when it happened. I just thought those were normal stuff partners fight about sometimes. But my friend stringed everything she knows together and came to the conclusion that my partner is very selfish and doesn't think about me and my feelings much. Basically small things adding up into a picture. What made me shocked was that I thought my partner was a straight to the point guy but he has tendency to be manipulative in small things, i always thought he was maybe a bit annoying to me but nothing more. My friend also told me about how her sibling having chosen the wrong partner is now suffering the consequences with her children and are on the verge of deciding about divorce. It made me aware of the weight of the decision.

While I don't agree with my friend to the extend that it was worthy to cancel the wedding and not marry my partner, it made me aware of so many bad character traits of my partner and how he treats me sometimes. I was looking forward to marry my partner and have kids in near future. Now I am constantly thinking and thinking if I have looked at everything correctly if there are things I didn't catch my partner do if I judge my partners character correctly. I also lost my good friend bc my fiance basically gave my friend signals to fuck off out of jealousy which I didn't know (that's why she only told me that late bc we lost contact). So now I have a bit of anxiety on and off during the weeks and days that I might have chosen wrong. I feel so hollow inside and feel anxiety. I love him, we have great story and good relationship over the many years.

After venting a bit, I think my main question to you are if you had people who meant well and warned you about your fiance before the wedding and it kinda killed the mood. Or were you not affected by it at all? I feel like the weight of the decision and being told the flaws of my partner gives me a bit of anxiety