Advice: what makes you feel sexually desired?

Hello, AuDHD married lesbian here! Recently my wife has let me know that she doesn't feel as desired by me or that I am attracted to her. Her love language is words of affirmation, which I am not great at. I have a really hard time naming my emotions and verbalizing them, so this has been a learning curve. I love her and I am very attracted to her but I for some reason struggle to get that point across. I'm hoping you guys can tell me what makes you feel physically desired by your partners. I'm looking for ways that you are complimented or things that your partners do that really make you feel wanted. Especially if you have struggled with insecurity around desire yourself! Obviously this is something we're working on together but I would love to hear how other queer women (nuerodiverse or not) view compliments/attraction/desire. Thanks everyone!