Abused but not beaten…

So, I have actually never been hit by my parents. Once, When I was young my dad tried “discipline” by taking a hanger and hitting the bottom of our feet. My mom came it and told him definitely couldn’t do that he’d get arrested. I would say my dad is narcissistic he always prided himself on NOT beating us. Telling us it was his right to do so if he wanted to and we’re lucky he didn’t. He sent us away at 13 and only called in to yell. (I remember him calling me a prostitute when I snuck out of the house) he also told me no one would ever love me or take care of me like he would. That I wouldn’t get married cause of my self harm scares.

He throws things yells and once even ripped his shirt off in anger. But I keep going back to denial because he doesn’t beat me. Anyone relate?