Gym (Disabled)

Good morning!

Looking for a gym for a disabled man to use. Self confidence is lacking, zero fitness. 80% ability in relation to body movement. Main aim is confidence and weight loss (230lbs currently) and use my FitBit to track progress. Mainly direction as what to do, but not to be spoken to like I'm a kid? Real bad experience in the past locally: "COME ON!" was shouted as encouragement, but pushing as best as possible. Walked away. Others sneering too within that macho crap that exists.. I'm not wrapped in bubble wrap, but will do things at my own speed, as I have food days and days I'm like concrete and just can't move. No use of a car due to disability, if that sways it any direction. Thanks everyone!