Am I the asshole? For Cutting contact with my mother because she called me too many times.

I do have to get a disclaimer. That I will be talking about physical and mental abuse. I need advice to see whether or not I am just overreacting. I have cut off contact with my mother.

And this all happened because she was not willing to respect my boundaries. the final straw was all my daughter's birthday. My husband and I had taken out our daughter to the local water park with baby sister. At the time my youngest was 6 months old and my daughter who we were celebrating her birthday for it was turning eight of course traveling with more than one child is always a hassle. The day was long my baby (6 month old)actually went to sleep when we got home as well as my husband. It was just me and my daughter. We're just bonding watching our favorite movies. By this point it was already 8:00 at night. My daughter was about go to bed when my mom start Bombarding my phone with multiple facetimes and calls. I understood she wanted to speak to my daughter and wish her happy birthday but by this point both I and my daughter were tired and I did not pick up.

I did also forget to mention that I had texted my sister multiple times though out day. I told them that we would be out all day and would possibly reach out to them later in the day so they could speak to my daughters a happy birthday. If anything we'll speak tomorrow the next day.

My mom continued to call and FaceTime me at least over 30 times. it got to the point that I was very annoyed. I answered I asked her why she had called my phone 30 times. Was there an emergency? She said no, She sounded very desperately as she told me that today was a very special day for her ? and needed to desperately speak to my daughter. At this point my daughter had already gone to bed. I have told her no, she has gone to bed and she asked me why is everything on my time? I had told her. That she is my daughter and I will dictate when she speaks to her.

Just to give contacts as to the reason why I have to speak to my mother in this way.

My parents growing up were very mentally and physically abusive. My parents growing up were very mentally and physically abusive. Just to give you guys a little bit of a clue of how bad the abuse was. There was a time that I had in school suspension because of this and my mom found out. She took me home took off my shirt. I was down to a bra. She then proceeded to grab the kitchen knife. Put it. on the stove burner Let it heat up and burned me with a knife as my punishment. If my mother was angry with me, she would bite me. My chores were to clean the stove and pick up small little things on the floor. If certain things weren't done fast enough, my mother were either beat me with a wire, belt or hanger. the physical abuse hurt but not as much as the mental. She would constantly pull my hair to the point where I was losing it four time.

CPS also got involved, but didn't really do anything.

My mom would call me stupid, retarded, worthless. She would curse me. Because of the physical mental abuse that I was going through at home at school. When I was being bullied, I never once spoke up. As a child I was also molested but I never told anyone because I had no one. My dad also physically abused me there was a time. He actually hit me with a bat straight to my face. The bat was plastic, but still caused enough damage that I didn't go to school for 2 weeks how badly bruised and swollen I was.

At one point I couldn't take it anymore when I was 15 I attempted to take my life. It was a fail obviously. My mom didn't give a fuck at the fact that I tried to commit suicide. She just like that. She had the power of keeping me locked in crazy house

I had two younger siblings than me. My brother who is 1 year younger than I am with special needs. And then my sister was 5 years younger than me. They were never treated like this. They were actually spoiled rotten. given the best clothes.

For example, my clothes were bought in from Walmart and Kmart. My brother and sister their clothes were bought at polo kids or Tommy higher. I was not allowed to eat any of the snacks in the household. They were just for my brother and sister.

My mom was also very controlling controlled every single little aspect of my life.

needless to say It was pretty tough growing up in this household.

I moved out at 16 because my parents married me off to a 24 year old man. That’s another long story I went through a lot of struggles. moving out that young.

During the years I did try to amend things with my parents I tried to get on Good terms never did last between long. My daughter was then born when I was 23.

Being a mother and now going through certain phases with my daughter. I just don't understand why my mother treating me the way she did a specifically only me. Don't get me wrong. I wouldn't wish this all my siblings, but I just don't understand why there's so much favoritism.

There was a time as well that when my daughter was younger my first daughter. My mom would also try to control what I did with her and how I did things. Although I was not under her roof at the time.

This is ultimately some of the reasons why i limit the access my mom has to my daughters

So with all that being said am I the asshole for cutting contact with my mother because she called me to many times?