Was I emotionally manipulated into sex by a narcissist?

I grew up with a narcissistic mother who constantly insulted and degraded me. She spread false stories about me, called me “a disgrace,” and accused me of being promiscuous just for existing. For a long time, I thought I had to be perfect to earn love. Eventually, I learned that I didn’t need her validation at all. Over time, I noticed a pattern: I kept attracting narcissistic people — not just in relationships, but also in friendships and work environments.

Shortly after a breakup, someone I barely knew from high school (we’d never really talked before) messaged me out of nowhere. Within days, he started sharing disturbing details about his sex life—daily masturbation, foot fetishes, and even an obsession with autopsy content. He also repeatedly said he wanted to die but didn’t want pity.

I could already sense red flags, but because I was so used to trying to “save” people in order to feel worthy, I stayed. He quickly became controlling: expecting constant replies, demanding pictures, and making me feel like I owed him something emotionally and physically.

Even though I didn’t truly want to have sex with him, I did—because I felt like I had to. Like I was somehow indebted. Afterward, he grew cold and distant. Disappeared. Months later, he reached out again, acting like nothing happened. He said he wanted to be with me, then ghosted again. This cycle repeated a few times.

A year later, after no contact, he used a clone account to message me and tried playing the same manipulative game. But I had changed — I could sense his intentions right away.

So I asked him: – “Do you think you’re a narcissist?” – “Yeah, I sort of admit that. Not proud of it though.” – “Do you manipulate people?” – “Yeah. You just need to find their weak spot.”

Now, I no longer fall into that trap. The last time he reached out, I saw it for what it was and walked away immediately. But one thing still lingers:

Does this count as emotional abuse and coercive sex through manipulation? I’m not writing this for sympathy. I’ve already walked away from it. I just want to name what actually happened.