dental anxiety

hello, i have bad teeth to say the least, and it keeps getting worse, pulled several, have had multiple fillings, a crown, and others with current issues. right now i have 2 back molars with huge silver fillings that are super old, and another filling that has partially come out that my new dentist put in a couple of years ago. all this to say, i keep putting off going to the dentist regularly because my anxiety is ridiculous. i’ve needed to go back a while ago but haven’t yet, the dentist i currently go to is in his 20s, and i usually see the dad or him but he always makes comments like you need to brush more, you need to floss more, which makes it even harder to get myself in that chair.. i already feel horrible yet because i’m already somewhat established there, i can’t bring myself to try and visit another dentist i could possibly be more comfortable with, help. i desperately need to go but i’m so scared 😭