Help with Astarion Romance

So this is my first playthrough of BG3 after getting it as a birthday gift. I decided to romance Astarion bc I heard his was good, but made the apparently very common mistake of accidentally skipping the drow in Moonrise and saving Nightsong, which made all of Moonrise hostile.

He broke up with me at the beginning of act 3 saying I'd done something wrong, so I loaded up a save before I killed Balthazar and went back to Moonrise to do the Drow conversation (I didn't let him bite her).

Thing is, I'm playing dark urge. I long rested right after that conversation, but instead of getting any scene or conversation about it, the butler visited me and the Urge tried to kill Astarion (didn't succeed obviously).

I'm worried that I didn't get the cutscene, and that if I didn't, it would break the sequence and Astarion's romance won't start or he'll break up with me again. That was about 5 hours of gameplay that I just had to reload and I don't wanna go back that far again. If I need to go back a bit further I will.