AITAH for nagging my boyfriend to wash his hands after he uses the bathroom?

So my (F21) boyfriend (M28) has a habit that really grosses me out: he doesn’t wash his hands after he goes number 1 or 2. I noticed it a while back, and at first, I let it slide thinking maybe it was just a one-time thing. But nope, it’s pretty consistent.

I’ve brought it up multiple times, gently at first, but now I’ll admit I’ve started “nagging” because honestly? It’s disgusting. We live together, we share food, touch the same things, and I don’t want poop particles on everything. I’ve tried reasoning with him and explaining basic hygiene, explaining to him that this is a standard part of being an adult.

Now here’s where it gets frustrating. He always talks about how he wants to be a respected man, a provider, a leader in our relationship. He talks about wanting to be high-value… but he won’t wash his damn hands. I told him today, “Providers wash their hands too.” He’s been giving me the silent treatment.

So Reddit, AITA for “nagging” him about something I think is a very basic adult responsibility? I get that people have different hygiene standards, but I don’t think this is a grey area.