Asking for help on easy tasks as a bid for connection?
I just realized I do this and I wondered if it's an autistic trait.
I sometimes ask people I like for help on something I could easily do myself. E.g. recently in work I saw someone used a clever cartoon in a presentation. I wanted to borrow it and use it for a presentation I will give soon, so I messaged the person saying I liked the cartoon and would they mind sharing it?
As soon as I sent it I realized this person would probably be annoyed at me, because I could have easily googled the cartoon and found it.
But it's not just about the share request, I realized that this is also a bid for connection, but I know that some people really dislike this and are like.. I'm busy why can't you just Google the answer yourself?
Which I get is annoying but I really like when people come to me with small requests and I can help them, my mid year review my boss even said that I am very generous with my time and expertise. I like connecting this way. I find it easier and more comfortable than general small talk (it would annoy me for example if someone contacted me "just to talk" i.e. without a purpose).
Is this an autistic thing or am I just really annoying as a person?!
Posted Jul 17, 2025, 8:42 AM UTC