after 3.5 years together, I’ve left.

MM and I met in 2021, affair quickly started. In hindsight he took advantage of my empathy and he played himself to be the victim of an arranged marriage. Which wasn’t true. He is a narcissist. He finally got divorced 2024, and we were publicly together for a bit until now. Being with him divorced was fucking hell. I was now his sole battery to constantly drain and demand. My special needs brother was in hospice from cancer in Feb of this year, and he required me to sleep over or be there constantly, when I just wanted to be home with my dying brother. The day before my brother died, I had to go over to his apartment to have sex with him. Or else he’d be mad. I feel so guilty for not standing up for myself and spending more time with my brother. After my brother died, he got worse. He blocked me and told me he was going to cheat on me and would gaslight and manipulate me into sleeping over. I finally put my foot down, and he blocked me again. And would unblock me to tell me he can’t believe that I’m doing this to him. Then when I told him I’m unhappy he told me I ruined his life, and forced him to get divorced. (After he told everyone that his wife divorced him, but now he’s telling me that it was his choice? lol). He then tried to use my dead brother against me and that was my final straw. I blocked him, went NC, and still to this day get messages in the weirdest places and no caller ID phone calls. I’ve spent most of my time trying to enjoy my summer and grieve my brother. My brother passed 2 months ago and we’ve been NC for a month. The longest and final.

I found out last night he is DMing my friend constantly trying to hit on her. She told me when we were talking. I am SO MAD! How do you do that to me, if I was your “soulmate”.

I don’t regret meeting him, it took me 7 times to get out. I learned a lot about myself, like how I allow people access to my empathy way too easy “empathy pirate” as my therapist calls him. I learned so much about myself. There 100% was tons of highs, but too many lows. I’m proud of myself, I deserved more than this narcissistic who just drained me. I will miss the sex, lol