my stimming bothers my partner

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my partner is also autistic but i stim a lot more than they do. and my stimming clashes with their sensory problems on a regular basis. some of the things i do i can stop temporarily when it bothers them (like playing with food in my mouth or making annoying noises with objects) but something that is consistently an issue is my stimming in bed

i almost constantly move around in bed, especially when im trying to relax or fall asleep. but my moving / rocking shakes the bed and it really bothers them. i try to stop or do it less when they ask me to but im only able to for a couple minutes before i start again without even realizing it. or i try really hard not to but then my body feels like electricity and i just cant stand it. but my partner cant stand the bed shaking and i feel really bad about it

does anyone have advice about this? sleeping in separate beds isnt an option, at least not right now because we arent able to sleep without each other. but i really hate bothering them so much :(