im sorry but im not taking my bike on a major highway/expressway??? 👎

How do i suggest to avoid these routes, all the time it suggests me to ride a rocky sidewalk along a busy road or to casually stroll alongside a highway, help???? maybe im just american and theres no way around it. im willing to take longer routes so i dont have to pedal my chain to shreds to avoid cars swerving into me on purpose 45+ mph