He used ChatGPT

We broke up… well I broke up with him… he still thinks there’s something there?

I told him last Saturday, that was it… that I’m done, that I don’t want to be in the relationship, that it’s over. He asked me to talk, asked me why I was doing this, what’s wrong with me… all the q’s…

When I wouldn’t answer his questions he got angry, took my phone, wouldn’t let me walk away, etc. then Sunday comes… I had packed up all his things, ready for him by the door. Told him I didn’t want to talk or have any emotional conversations. He asked for a hug, I gave it. He started boo-boo crying. I felt emotionless.

Anyways… he tells me he was able to reflect that he had realized all that he had done wrong. That he would go to therapy. Heal. That he never wanted to put anyone through what he went through as a child. That he even showed his parent the recording I had from the day before and they were apparently very emotional about it.. Eventually he took his things and left.

Fast forward a few days…

9pm he texts “checking in… he had been able to reflect & wanted to share some of his feelings… when I’m ready of course… hope the pets are doing good… I miss them too.”

3am another text, this time saying “he was sorry that he didn’t take my feelings into consideration with his last text…”

I did not reply… the next day 2am another text comes… hopefully allowed but the whole thing is here: “Hey, I’m checking in again since I still haven’t heard back from you. I wanted to wait till I saw you in person to express some of these feelings but I wanted to go ahead and share since I believe it might help

I now understand how you felt in the past when I would shut you out completely and I’m sorry. This wasn’t my intention but it was one of my negative coping mechanisms. I wasn’t able to handle my own emotions and feelings and as a result, I resorted to this. And every time it caused more damage to our relationship. I can understand why you felt exhausted since you were the one putting in the work while I wasn’t emotionally able to. I’m sorry again Bri. I’m hoping deep down you still want to be with me and want our relationship to work but the silent treatment isn’t the way. Think about how it made you feel when I did it. Two wrongs don’t make a right

I’ve realized during my time away that a relationship is filled with hard conversations. If we aren’t able to have challenging conversations with each other our relationship can’t improve. I realize how much effort you were giving to make things work when I wasn’t emotionally able to. You were ready to have those conversations when I wasn’t. I see that now and I’m sorry. I want to improve myself and our relationship. I want things to actually get better between us and not go back to our same cycle

If you aren’t ready yet, I understand but please let me know. I’m ready to share my feelings whenever you are. With respect, kindness and understanding. I can go first if it makes it easier. I will create a safe space for you to share your true feelings without getting defensive and reactionary so I can listen to your needs

When I saw you on Sunday I told you that was the hardest day of my life. 5 days later each day has gotten more difficult. I’ve felt so many emotions and feelings that I’ve suppressed for a very long time. Deep down I’ve always been scared to confront my past. I always used to run away from the pain and discomfort that came along with it but you’ve helped me realize that I can’t continue going on in my life like this

I love you”

Another text 3pm “Can I come home and give you a hug?”

Oh yea, he also sent me like ~$2k. He did not pay any bills since we moved in together in Feb… some circumstances there but it doesn’t matter that much at this point…

I have not replied to any of the messages, but I still need him to sign the paper to remove him from the lease. Do I acknowledge the messages or just say/ask when he can meet me in the leasing office to sign the paper? I really don’t have anything else to say to him, I said it all during the relationship… to which he did nothing at all. Even laughed in my face the last time I told him this was really the last chance… that he had a month (idk maybe wrong of me but oh well).