Feeling like I’m forcing my connection with my SK’s.

I always feel like I strike out with my SK’s (10 and 8) and honestly it’s very discouraging. Like I put in all this effort and they just don’t seem very receptive to anything I show them. It’s probably one of the hardest things I’ve dealt with since we came into each other’s lives five years ago. I just constantly feel like I’m trying to fit in with them. They don’t have many interests but YouTube and video games (Fortnite; Roblox.) I’m teaching them how to ride a bike and succeed with my middle Step and now working with the oldest. I’ve introduced sports, music, or any type of other arts to them and they just always go back to the same thing, YouTube and video games. I like video games from time to time so I have played with them and still do when I have downtime but I get bored easily with the games they like I’m more of a story mode single player game kind of guy and I’ve tried sharing that with them and they just don’t have the attention span for it. I make it a habit to try and always include them in everything.

My wife and I got two boys now a 3 year old and 7 month old so I do what I can to give whatever time I have left to still keep trying to connect with my SK’s. We just don’t have much in common and well I just sometimes feel like giving up and just focusing on my two but that isn’t right either. We get along but that’s pretty much it. I do go above and beyond for my SK’s often I treat them like they are my own so they grow up being treated fairly and with respect but as time goes on I just feel less motivated to try with them. Now that my first is getting older he just wants to follow me everywhere and do whatever I’m doing and that’s the best feeling in the world. He’s like my mini me! I know this sounds very selfish and me, me, me but idk how else to put it because this is simply about how I’m feeling. I feel like I might get to a point where I just ask them and if they say no then I’ll just go about my day. I was never one to try and fit in anywhere not even as a young kid so this is what it feels like me trying to fit in and I don’t like it. I always stuck to my friends and people I had similar interests with nothing ever forced and I don’t want to keep trying to “force” this as it feels like to me.

Should I just keep doing what I’m doing? Keep trying to include them and then I guess when that point comes I’ll just stop or what? Idk I’m lost. Has anyone felt this way?