Do I talk too much or am I overthinking?

I’ve been overthinking my close friendships lately. I’m naturally talkative and always have a stream of thoughts running through my head, so I tend to lead most conversations and make plans. I’ll bring up random topics, sometimes superficial or silly, and my friends say they enjoy it, but I often feel like I’m “blabbering” or taking up too much space. If I stop talking, the conversation usually dies, and I feel like the only way to keep things going is for me to keep talking.

I also find myself asking them what they want to do, how they feel, or if they have anything on their mind, but I usually get “I don’t know” or short answers, so everything ends up falling into my lap. I try my best to give them space to talk but it can get awkward. I start to feel like I’m needy, bossy, or self-obsessed because I’m always the one steering the energy. I even apologize for talking too much or ask them to tell me to shut up if I am. It just makes me feel insecure for some reason. I’ve brought this up to them multiple times over the part few years, but nothing seems to change. This miscommunication makes me frustrated and overwhelming in the moment.

Am I overthinking this? It makes me upset, part of me blames myself and part of me blames them. I want it to be balanced, I don’t want to feel like I put more effort in. I’ve asked for them to initiate more things, but they just won’t. Maybe I just have to accept that about them. How do I stop feeling embarrassed and bring balance in the conversation?

Btw I have ADHD so when I yap I really can’t meal my mouth shut.