Re: "AITAH for wanting my daughter to stay?"

Content warning: CP.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/lrC9FNvMoK

So, usually I think it's dumb and fake when multiple people from the same story post on Reddit, but I'm almost 100% certain the OP of that post is my mom. I know I've talked about liking these subreddits before, and knowing her, I feel like it's completely in character for her to post somewhere she knows I'll see it in order to get my attention. The thing that actually surprises me a little is that she hasn't taken it down, considering all the hate she got, but I guess she just wanted me to see how oh-so-very-sad she is. I'm using a throwaway instead of my main to reply here, as there's stuff on my main I don't want my mom seeing. Fake names will be used, just in case.

First off, I want to thank all the people on my mom's post condemning her and congratulating me on getting out. For context, my (25f) parents' other kid (23m) was arrested for 10 counts of possession of very illegal images of young kids. To my understanding, this means he was caught with possession of this material 10 times, not necessarily that he only accessed it 10 times. For the sake of clarity (not that I think any of this makes it better), these were not drawings or young adults pretending to be children, nor was this entrapment via a sting operation. He just accessed some dark web shit and was a horrible person because he wanted to be.

Anyway, I've stayed as long as I have because I'm a student. I took a break during the pandemic, because I absolutely HATE online-only learning (being in a classroom helps me keep myself accountable), but I've been working this whole time, and although the first time around I tried living away from home, I've been living with my mom since the pandemic since we don't live too far from my college campus and she charges me much less rent than is normal for my area.

I had some credit card debt I needed to pay off (what can I say, I was pretty stupid at around 18-19) as well as student loans to keep on top of, but I've been really diligent in working while doing school and trying to save up at least enough to move out of this hellhole. Things looked like they were lining up for me to move out on the same day my brother went to jail, and I was hoping to move out on the same day he left for maximum impact. Since her Reddit post, I've decided I can't stay any longer. Mom, since I assume you're reading this: I've moved out. I won't tell you which friend I'm living with, or where we're living. I won't be talking to you for a while.

You've caused me so much fucking hurt over the last year and 6 months. You made me agree to bring your son home, a choice i only agreed to because you begged me and you're my fucking mom. It WAS wrong of you to put that shit on me, to act like I agreed to it when I clearly only agreed under duress and made it very clear I was not comfortable with him being there. The first thing I did when I knew you were bailing him out was buy a lock for my bedroom door because he gets aggressive when he's embarrassed, and he just had his most embarrassing secret exposed. Did that not raise a single red flag to you? That my first reaction was fear that he'd get violent over me enforcing a boundary that might be embarrassing to him? That I genuinely thought he might get violent, and that a lock for my door was necessary? I'm older, yes, but he's bigger and stronger. I was afraid of him. I have been for years before his arrest. Truly, although the crime he committed was a shock, I always kind of expected he'd get arrested; I just always thought it would be for DV against his future wife and/or kids, not… this.

I hate this man, and I hate the way he's been infantilized. Yes, he's young, and was young when he started, but he was still old enough to know better. You act like it's because he apparently got introduced to porn at 11. Sorry, but lots of people get introduced to porn around that age. I was introduced to porn around that age. Miraculously, I don't feel the need to pleasure myself to children, and neither do the majority of fucking sane, normal, non-sociopathic people. Jesus Christ. Your son is not normal. You did not discipline us growing up. Either of us, really, which gave us a pretty shitty start in life. I'm adjusting now, because I have people in my life who treat me like a normal fucking person who can handle my own shit. Your son won't get that experience, except from his fellow prison mates who will even treat him as a lesser.

Anyway, to the rest of y'all, I'm willing to respond to any questions you may have at this point. Thanks for the support on the original, even though I was sight unseen at that point; the fact that y'all called my mother out as hard as you did is so validating.