Abrupt breakup of M 29 and F 30

F 30 of 2+ years broke up with me M 29 over text.

So yesterday I received a text saying,

"Thank you for EVERYTHING. We've shown where we are at in regards to having capacity and openness to another in our lives. You'll always be in my heart and I know you'll only ever get exactly what you want out of life. Thank you again and we had so much fun and now let's see how far life takes our own journeys:]"

This was after she made plans to go out with me on Saturday to go see an Ozzy tribute that was at our favorite club where we met about 2 years ago. That same day in the morning she called me saying she actually wanted to go camping with her "friends" when I asked what friends she wanted to go camping with, she told me "that's none of your business."

I was pretty taken back by this, but still was trying to be supportive and give her her space as we have had a few issues the past month or so due to her job being overly stressful, my mother being hospitalized for dementia, and me purchasing a house to be close to my mother to help her transition into a nursing home and help take care of her.

So a lot has been going on in our personal lives. I make good money and purchased the house on my own and had been expressing that I wanted to do this for the past few months as my lease is ending in September and I found a really nice place that just made sense. She doesn't have the best job or income and I felt the resentment when I told her I bought the place, she immediately cried and thought then I was going to leave her for some reason (jeasouly/envy?), but I expressed to her I wasn't going anywhere and I wanted her to move in with me at some point if she wanted to. She declined and I thought that was strange but I thought maybe it was overwhelming so I didn't push the issue any further.

So back to the camping fiasco, I told her she could use my camping gear and lent it to her, she was grateful, and we went our separate ways for the day. On Sunday, she wanted to come over then go out to dinner (which I have always paid for) and I just was pretty hungover and tired so I told her let's just do it tomorrow instead. She replied "okay :]" then after I got off work, I received that text in the beginning of the post and another text saying "left your tent in the truckbed :]"

So now I'm confused and angry, I haven't been broken up over text since 7th grade... so I try and call her to see wtf happened, but no, I'm blocked, deleted on everything, and got no response for 3 hours. So now I'm even more angry and confused and I decided to go to her apartment. The apartment is in a small building with 2 levels, she's on the main and I can't get into the building but I can knock on the window, so I do, but again no response. Her car is there so I know she's there, I text her again, saying that if she doesn't answer then I'm going to call the police to check and see wtf is happening and she still has all my other camping stuff with her, which includes a 8 person pop-up tent (different from the one she dropped off) a cot-style air mattress, a wireless automatic recharging air pump, my paddleboard oar, and some other ancillary items I gave her to use. So at this point I just wanted my stuff back if she wanted to suddenly out of the blue end our relationship in the most passive aggressive and immature way possible. Then I see her hopping out of the window, get into her car and as I try to stop her she runs into me and peels off. I didnt get hurt, but now I'm extremely pissed and even more confused on why I can't even get the common courtesy of an explanation to wtf is going on.

She leaves and then immediately comes back and says she is calling the cops on me for harassment. I tell her we'll they are on the way already so there's no need, and while we wait can we just talk? Nope. "I won't talk without a lawyer present, I want a restraining order!" Okay...

Cops arrive she proceeded to grab my stuff out of her trunk, throws it angrily in on the ground, and talks to the cops. I get my stuff back and tell the police the story and they say that I'm not doing anything wrong and should go, which I do.

I then text her best friend and ask if she can get me in touch with her and I explain the whole situation to only get this response "You had every choice but to get the police involved. You were selfish and deliberate with the choices you made. She is not mandated to reply to you. She is not mandated to be your friend on social media. She didn't need to give you 'clarity on why she broke up with you' to avoid police involvement."

So I'm seriously wondering wtf happened here, I think after being with someone for 2 years things didn't have to end so abruptly, dramatic, and ugly. I thought I have the right to an explanation and my personal property back.