Laser Litho on Thursday = Panic Attacks Today

I have had a double J stent since early May, ahead of a laser lithotripsy that is scheduled for this Thursday. They are extracting 5mm and 7mm stones.

It has been a difficult road of incorrect info on my diagnosis sheet, a urologist who lied to me about the length of time I'd have the stent, meds that don't work, severe med side effects. I have not been able to walk any distance for the last 90 days. I can't go on car rides, sit or stand. I can't stand long enough to do dishes or wash my hair in the shower. I can not rise from a laying down position without considerable pain and effort. My quality of life has tanked severely from being in 8/10 pain for months. It's also delayed being seen for endometrial cancer. I need a hysterectomy that I can't schedule until this is all done. I am essentially bed-ridden in the most severe pain a person can endure with no hope of any relief. The trauma from this mental toll will never change. I was only 49 when this began, and I had a lot of life left to live. A garden. Hobbies. All gone.

I keep reading that laser lithotripsy brings relief but almost always results in another stent. I am afraid I will have a heart attack if I wake to feel another stent in place. Having a string stent instead of the double J won't make the situation any better. I will not remove it myself. I can't cause myself more pain on purpose.

What can I do? How can I avoid a stent after laser litho? Can I cancel the laser litho and just let life play out? I need a practical way forward, because "let's just wake up from surgery to see if the severe torture continues" is not a medical treatment plan.