7.28.2025 cutting toxic friends

Today I came to a sad conclusion- the friends I thought I had, they were no friends.

I am having a hard year- having been forced out of my previous living space due to new roommate and untrained dog. It was not safe and my roommate at the time ended up not being my friend- taking sides with his friend/new roommate. The dog bit over 4 people- 2 inside the house and 2 outside the house within 6 months! He sent one to the hospital- there were no consequences for the dog’s owner. Now my dog is also traumatized and showing reactivity.

I thought these were my friends but they dropped me because I moved out and told the landlord about 1 of the bites for his safety- which also blamed me for the whole situation. Lack of accountability all around.

Then I had another friend group who I knew at the same time. I shared the grief and told them I was depressed/looking for a new therapist to work through the trauma this brought on.

Friend group 2 said my efforts were not enough. Showing up with limited spoons to see them and not staying more than 2 hours when it takes me an hour to get there was not enough for them.

I told them I was depressed and taking a break while navigating all this hurt after they said the above. They nitpicked how I grieved- made it about themselves and basically monitored my discord shit posting to nitpick more saying I just Shat on them and hate them.

I’m in my 30s and reliving my childhood trauma of being abandoned and criticized for feeling and trying to fix myself instead of catering to them and bending over backwards.

This is just so exhausting.