idk what to do

i (23f) have recently started dating someone (24) who is definitely on the asexual spectrum. i enjoy being with them and i love them and i don’t want it to not work out. we have done some sexual stuff above the belt, but they wanted to try phone sex on facetime. they didn’t say much the whole time just kind of watched me play w my nipples and stuff and they kept hinting they wanted to see my vagina so after about 20 minutes of working up the courage to show them i showed all of myself on screen and all they said was “thanks for that” after and basically told me later all they could think was thats a vagina and didn’t feel anything which is fair i knew they were on the asexual spectrum anyways, but it made me feel extremely rejected. i have always been super hyper sexual (since i was like 7) and i have been holding myself back since we have been together because i don’t want to make them uncomfortable. when we are engaging in anything sexual i want more and more i am used to people only really being interested in my body. they love me more than sex and i don’t think they even want sex. how do i cope with that? i know it is good for me to not have sex all the time bc it makes me feel dirty and gross after like i shouldn’t have had sex but i also crave it so badly and want to have sex everyday so idk what to do.