I cannot find a partner for the life of me and it’s actually really starting to make me miserable. How did you find yours? (To the men)

27M switch in SoCal. I don’t mean to make a whining post but I’m actually really starting to feel badly about myself. I feel like I’ve tried every possible route that people on here keep suggesting and literally none of them have worked. Everyone I’ve met in the community via FL over the last year is either partnered, poly, too old or not particularly attractive to me. Traditional dating isn’t going anywhere. Everyone said to try Feeld and it honestly might be the worst dating app of all (seriously, you get one like a day to try and stand out and that’s IF you pay).

And I’m just tired. I’m so so tired. I don’t act creepy or weird (I honestly never even talk about kink unless someone else brings), I don’t think anyone in the community finds me off putting, save when I feel out of place at munches and don’t say much (which is often, they’re cliquey as fuck). I’m not some fake dom or cooze hound trying to take advantage of people, I’m just trying to find my person and the idea that I can be in the company of so many like minded people and find basically no one I’m of compatible interest with is so disheartening that it makes me want to give up, except that won’t actually do anything either so now I’m just stuck