Can we talk abt the shit they’re saying abt us online?

Idk I just wanted to vent and commiserate or maybe hear some words of encouragement. I follow a lot of trans people on Insta and there’s so much gaslighty shit circulating right now about trans men being POS misogynists. I’m actually dysphoric and triggered as fuck today from the discourse.

I wrote out entire comments trying to explain my truth but I just deleted it cuz, why bother. I’m happy to have this community because genuinely I feel unsafe and unwanted and just wrong all over my body when I see huge amounts of trans fems dogpiling on “birthday boys” (what they’re calling us now), calling us precious AFABs and victims, proudly saying misandry is OK and we’re “just men” and no one wants to hear some man’s opinion on womanhood / misogyny. There’s genuinely vitriolic and disgusting shit especially minimizing SA and misogyny against trans men.

The posts I’ve seen are from trans fems in LA which is my local area, my gf knows some of them cuz they’re prominent in the trans community. I’m not trying to start shit, I just wanted to know what you guys think. Cuz it makes me feel like I don’t even wanna be part of community, knowing there’s trans women and men out there that genuinely think I’m the privileged oppressor while looking me in my clocky face.

Us TMPOC are so misunderstood. TW SA: The thought circulating in my head all day has been- did it not count when I was SA’d as a woman? Did it not count when as a woman i suffered and emerged a man? Am I not a woman? Must I be one or the other, is it so confounding that as a man I’ve lived as a woman? A lot of us have a unique relationship to womanhood, I don’t see that my manhood depends on distancing myself from that. It’s like the carrot stick of validation dangling over our heads is that to be truly men we must conveniently neglect those parts of ourselves and our struggle. Is my body not under attack and am I not left out of the conversation about “women’s reproductive rights”? Idk I’m filipino and Mexican, I did my time decolonizing my mind, I am still a man. I don’t see myself as nonbinary. I see myself as a man born from woman. Idk.