30 F single

So I’ve been single for most of my life . But before I get into anything you have to understand I was raised by my dad mom left when I was a baby , my dad was an alcoholic soldier with crazy ptsd . So I was legit raised by my dad and all his crazy military friends. So growing up my dad would always have different woman weekly sometimes daily . So I just grew up NEVER wanting to be like this woman so much so it has hindered my dating. My dad also did other horrible stuff that most likely contributes to that as well . Anyways I’m fine I have an amazing job own my own house and can afford everything I want or need . But now I’m 30 I’m single , I’m the hottest I ever been and it’s a curse idc. Life would be so much easier being not so attractive. One guys only want to have seggs with me that’s like the majority of men. The others don’t want a committed relationship or just cant emotionally be in one . And then when I am interested in a guy it sucks because I do not live up to the way I look, meaning I prefer work over anything else, I prefer to stay home and play call of duty than go out , I don’t drink at all , I’m interested/obssessed with aliens and the planet and animals Andy bugs , and I also workout religiously, I also always tell people who I’m talking to I need atleast 2 days out of the week to be by myself and decompress , I’m just such a loner at heart that it’s hard to date . Anyways am I the problem here . Should I get a relationship or a therapist. HELP . And please don’t be rude.