Tales of a confused person

Obvious content warning for description of sexual acts I'm a 22 years old AMAB individual still figuring their gender identity, as well as their sexuality. Even if I didn't know what sex was, even as a kid, I always found both men and women physically attractive. But because I didn't know about the LGBTQIA+ community, I thought to myself "well, I can't be gay, because I also like girls". Growing up, I could masturbate to either, and still do sometime. Fast forward to when I'm 14 and discover the community. I begin to identify as pansexual and do so for a while. Then, around 19 years old, I have my first hookup with some dude in college (basically blowing him in the toilets). It doesn't go well at all thanks to my inexperience, and I start to think I may actually be asexual. The next year, I manage to meet with another guy I've been flirting with for a couple years now, and we 69 in a train station bathroom. It takes a while for me to cum, but I do eventually. The next year, I hookup with a girl I met at a convention a few months prior, invite her other for the week, and over the course of it, we bang three times together. A few months afterwards, I go to her place, and we do it two times. In each of these five interactions, I never came once, even though I managed to make her do. What do y’all think ?