I've done a few counseling sessions with my BPD, results were not all that good

I'm convinced doing counseling sessions with someone who has BPD is a complete waste of time. They can barely be honest with themselves let alone someone else. And most if not all her thinking is not rooted in reality. It's rooted in make belief, magical thinking, if you think its real than it will become real. As such most if not everything she says is heavily embellished, never actually happened, or outright fraudulent revisionism. The counselor also noted the same issues, that my BPD refuses to let go of issues, and she tends to weaponize therapy as a way to coerce me into bending to her will. Even simple exercises that have nothing to do with me are always brought back into blaming me for everything. Heck my BPD has blamed me for her personality being the way it is which i had no words for. And that's the thing my BPD says i dont communicate because i dont have some crafted response to what she blames me for, but i dont think anyone would have a response. Imagine being blamed for being you, and then being blamed for not being you, then being blamed for being both, neither, one or the other.