Scummy bummy ex

My ex and I broke up about 4 years ago. We have 3 boys, never married. I pay her child support every month with no court order. I have my boys 5 nights a week. They just started playing football, and their coach asked me to help out. Absolutely! Well, she never shows up to practice or games..until now. Because she says football is too tough and they come home with bruises and scrapes. They’ve been loving it! They’re boys. Well I’m “being to hard on them. They aren’t playing in the Super Bowl. My babies don’t need to be getting hurt. “ and now she’s saying I can have them wed and every other weekend and I’ll be paying 12 years of back child support.

I have a great job that allows me to pay her and pay my bills and give my kids a good life. I gave her child support a few weeks ago, and 2 days later her electric got shut off for non payment. She works part time minimum wage job and has no intentions of trying to better her life at all. She drinks all the time and doesn’t ever do anything with the boys. She sleeps during the day and works midnights. She lets one kid at a time stay at her house alone during the night instead of coming to my house. My boys are with her while she sleeps. She’s tried to pull them out of school because they weren’t doing good. She’s a conspiracy nut that thinks doctors and teachers are only there to turn her babies into mindless government drones. She told my 8 year old the sun wasn’t real, it’s just a hologram.

This week she told me she would not allow me to be their coach, and if I don’t listen, she will pull them out of football and not let me see them.

I have been putting it off for years now because I get to see my boys 5 nights a week. But I can’t keep letting her get mad and throw the fact that she has sole custody of the boys in my face. It feels controlling for someone who isn’t even half a good mother.

So..someone tell me I have some hope here. I’m calling a lawyer tomorrow. Just tell me I’m not about to lose everything. Please