The more I heal, the more my friendships fall apart… 💔

Hey everyone, my heart has been breaking a little every day lately, and I wonder if anyone else feels the same…

As I go deeper into my healing process and try to take better care of myself, it feels like I’m slowly drifting away from most of the people I used to be close with. Not because I suddenly stopped caring, but because I’m realizing how little space there ever really was for me in those relationships.

So many of my friendships have always revolved around the other person, their stories, their feelings, their needs. And now that I’m going through a really heavy time myself, I’m noticing how rarely anyone checks in or asks how I’m doing. Even my brother, who knows I’m dealing with returning memories of SA, talked nonstop about himself during his last visit. And I had to tell my “best friend” that I would really appreciate the same interest in my life that I show in hers. I even gave her examples of how she could ask… but nothing really changed.

I have my husband and my cats, and I’m deeply grateful for them. But it still hurts. It feels like I’m losing so much at once. I’m trying to set healthier boundaries and protect my energy, but it’s scary to feel this alone.

Has anyone else experienced this during healing? Did your friendships shift in a positive way or did you end up finding new people who could truly meet you where you are?