Update: AITAH for letting daycare call CPS when my (stbex) husband failed to pick up our toddler from daycare?

Not too much to update, but after talking to our lawyers and mediators, it was decided I'll be moving back to our old home withour toddler in another state and resume my old job (we moved less than a year ago for his career), I will have primary cusody. He has proven he cannot handle custody. We have agreed on an amount of child support (approximately 4k/mo). He'll keep our current house once we leave and take on the mortgage, I'll keep our old home after the tenants move out. We are set to move back in 2 months. His lawyer advised him to accept these terms because I have clear documentations of him failing to fulfill his parental obligations, evidence that suggests alienation and career sabatoge and he's lucky I'm not seeking compensation for that.

To answer some questions...

I did not call CPS. The daycare called the cops (not CPS).

I was scheduled to work on the weeks he was supposed to pick up our toddler. I did choose to not scramble to coverage to pick him up as I was already in trouble for spontaneously leaving every two weeks (on his weeks) to cover him. In addition, getting coverage would take 30min+and then another 30 min to get to his daycare.

Yes, I could have problem solved and asked my friend to pick up but I did not.

Yes, the daycare knew about trial separation and knew it was Dad's day. But since he wasn't coming, they called me.

My old job still has needs so I'll resume there. Most days are 7-3, but there will be some 12-24 hr shifts - in which I'll have an Au Pair (we used to have one) and i'll have family around (my mom and siblings)

We had moved away from my family (so my mom can help me with occasional pick ups if needed)