On line can work* I posted this on another page and thought I’d share here

I don’t think many successful on line daters come back to share their success so here’s one

From a now 63 year old woman who found the absolute perfect match three years ago…The dating apps require a lot of hard miserable work time and effort…I think especially for those (like me) who are more sensitive…however my family practitioner gave me some dating advice….first look at the pictures and decide if the person simply “looks” Nice ( meaning good person…not necessarily just looks wise), then see if there are any common interests…and (this one I found hilarious) finally don’t pay attention to what that person says they want…she says many men say they want the absolute perfect woman (which doesn’t exist) so just ignore that and make contact based on number one and two…my Bumble match did look nice in his pictures and in fact he looked so self conscious and kind of miserable in one picture and that his uncomfortableness actually made him appeal to me because I hated the dating thing too We are now building a house on a small lake and plan to get married at that house upon completion I never allowed myself to even have this kind of a dream and now I’m living a “fantasy” life and so it’s been just unbelievable….the down side to my story is that in May I was diagnosed with a one in a million type of an aggressive (stage 4) cancer and now am undergoing treatment….so I don’t don’t know my future but no matter what the time and effort and misery of the dating app was something that has changed my life even more as he is a steadfast love through it all I encourage you all to try to manage the dating stress and find a way that works for you without destroying your mental health Best wishes for your futures and remember there’s only one life and make every day count