Why do so many good women crave being degraded in bed?

I’ve met women who are doctors, mothers, therapists, all highly intelligent and powerful in real life.
Yet they secretly love being choked, slapped, used, or humiliated in bed.

What’s the psychology behind that? Is it about release? Reversal of power? Childhood repression?

Curious to hear from women themselves. If this is you, tell me what goes on in your head when it happens.