AITA for not caring that a mom said my bikini wasn’t kid-appropriate at a shared pool?
reposting this as my old account got banned
I (19F) got shamed at my apartment pool for my swimsuit choice by someone who could’ve just sat literally anywhere else So I 19F reside in a pretty decent apartment complex in Texas, and this pool here is one of my go-to spots to wind down, particularly when it's not crowded. Today was one such quiet morning maybe about 10:45 AM and no one was there when I got there. I stationed myself in the corner in some shade, had my book, my smoothie, and a quite standard bikini on (nothing outrageous, no thongs or anything). Approximately 30 minutes later, a woman arrives with her toddler and, of all the dozens of available chairs, she picks the one sitting right next to me. Whatever, it's a public pool. But then she glances at me and utters something like, "You should be more careful about what you're wearing children are present here." I was truly taken aback and just sort of laughed uncomfortably. I told her, "I'm literally just sitting here reading." She responded with, "Still, it's inappropriate." So, I was sort of irritated I didn't say anything further and just plugged in my headphones, but it really bothered me. It wasn't like I was doing something even remotely suggestive, and if she was that uncomfortable, there were plenty of other seats to choose from. So… was I inconsiderate for wearing a regular bikini to a communal pool? Or is this just another instance of someone regulating women's bodies without cause?
Posted Aug 4, 2025, 4:31 PM UTC