What do you say to men who think that women should all be trad wives?

All of my brothers, all of their friends, all of my cousins, and all of their friends talk this way, they are all between the age of 17 and 31. I actually believe this isnt a joke because my brother and I have gotten into actual fights about it. all of them are single or have only been in a relationship for a few months, some of them have kids.

I know most of them because they play basketball together and I will hang out with my brother or give them rides.

I have been in a relationship for 5 years and am about to get married, when they ask my advice I tell them that you have to have friends who are women that you wouldn't want to sleep with because that will give you an understanding of their perspective. I am almost immediately shut down because "women are just for wifing up".

Is it even possible to have a conversation with people who are in this sphere?