Self compassion is weirdly changing my outlook on life

I started listening to Kirstin Neff’s book Self-Compassion. I have been in this terrible headspace for years now, I think a lot of it was spurred by feeling rejected. And I took on every dumb thing you could think of… I’m old, I’m unlovable, I’m not successful, I’m not attractive… all of it. And I recently started seeing a new therapist and something about how she looked utterly shocked when I said that stuff to her made me actually see for once how distorted my thinking was.

I almost don’t know what to do allowing that I’m okay how I am. It frees up a lot of mental anguish I’ve been constantly feeling for years. I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore but I also am having compassion with that and allowing myself to just not know.

I kind of see there’s no big solution anymore to any of life’s problems. We all have them just in different places. And the more we can accept all of our parts, we can extend that love and care to others.