How to eventually make it feel good?

Hello everyone. I'm a 21 year old male. I got into anal play a few years ago and did it on and off. I read so much about how it would change your life and you will never want to go back to regular masturbation. I bought many different toys in the hopes that this one will be the gamechanger. But that never happened. I think after my first few tries I got into a fairly long streak of weekly playtime. It felt nice in general but I never felt like I got to the point that I'd never want to touch my dick again. Due to necessary preperation and cleaning I kind of lost interest in it. After that I kind of played on and off, maybe once every few months. I felt disappointed. It never felt that great as everyone made it seem to do. It only felt pleasureable when I went really really deep. When I tried to stimulate my prostate directly with my finger, I couldn't even find it. I felt nothing special. Now, I am masturbating between once per day to 3 days. When I purposefully abstain myself from penile stimulation, my arousel stopps completely. I don't feel horny at all. Thus I don't feel like shoving things up my ass. Only when I get into that routine of masturbating every few days I can even get hard and horny again. Alright, that was quite the vent from my side haha. To get to the point: I seek to find help from you guys. I want to have that magic cum button. I want to have one orgasm after the other. I want to think about it 24/7. What's your advice to me? Should I abstain from masturbation for even longer? Maybe a cage? Should I get into a daily stimulation routine even if I "don't feel like it"? How can I make my prostate finally become sensitive?