My fiance [27F] loves The Simpsons. I [26F] do NOT. Is there any way I can tell her she can't change my mind without upsetting her?

I'm from the US, my fiance (we've been dating for 5 years as of April) is from the UK. I was a middle child, she was the youngest and born when all of her siblings were already teens. We grew up in vastly different households, and have vastly different tastes in media.

She's been introducing me to new things that I've been loving! I grew up in a Nintendo household, so I've been really enjoying playing all of her PlayStation games that I never had access to! I'd never gotten into any Transformers media before, so I've been reading her comics and watching some animated series with her and been loving it! We've been watching classic movies that I never knew existed, because I only ever watched animated movies growing up!

However, it seems like she is hoping that my love of new experiences will extend to the Simpsons (and, to a lesser extent, South Park, but she already kinda knows how I feel about that one).

I do NOT want anything to do with adult cartoons from that era. I don't want to see the casual child abuse, transphobia, homophobia, and racism that's seen as normal and funny for adult shows to joke about. In particular I'm really uncomfortable seeing scene after scene of Homer choking Bart out. It happens... in EVERY episode.

I have no interest in The Simpsons. I'd go so far as to say I actively dislike it. But my fiance really wants me to watch it with her. She grew up with it, and she wants to experience it again through me so badly. The whole franchise means a lot to her; in fact I was pushed to make this post because she put on the Hit and Run soundtrack and was dancing around to it as we were doing the dishes today and it just really frustrated me. It felt like she was playing it up in the hopes I'd start liking it too.

TL/DR: I do NOT want to watch the Simpsons, even though it's a show that means a lot to my fiance. Can I tell her to stop with the Simpsons stuff in a way that won't hurt her?

Posted Aug 5, 2025, 10:08 PM UTC

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