Perfect man but jobless

Hi y’all. I’m 26F, successful and mid-career, recently moved across the country on my own and got my own place. I’ve been seeing a guy (Master’s degree as of March, currently unemployed) for about 4 months — 2 months of texting, 2 months in person.

He randomly reached out to me on social media — we both happened to be moving to the same city. He’s almost perfect: attractive (a little short, but it’s cool), emotionally expressive (writing letters, singing Fantasia to me, already saying he’s in love), prays with me, shares my Christian values, also abstinent. He’s affectionate, supports me, compliments me constantly, and pays for everything—but also keeps reminding me that money is tight and that we’d be official by now if he could do more. It makes me wonder why he’s stretching himself so thin just to keep me around and I don’t wanna deplete his savings. I was fine taking it slow at first, but now I’m not so sure.

He spirals often, overthinks, and leans on me heavily for emotional support — not just relationship stuff, but also complaints about family life. I care about him, but damn, it’s draining. He apologizes after emotional blowups, but the damage lingers. From my perspective, he could be doing more with his resume and job search. He says he’s trying, but I don’t see much momentum.

We recently agreed to take space at my ask, which led to another spiral — he called me crying and upset that he hadn’t heard my voice all day, even though I clearly asked for distance. It was disrespectful. He says he wants to wait to make things official until he has a job (which I understand), but it doesn’t feel right giving boyfriend energy and building memories without commitment. I feel more peaceful with distance, but I’m still torn, I do miss him. He’s a sweet man, but I constantly feel like I’m walking on eggshells and having to emotionally secure him. I’m not trying to lead or “build a man.”

TL;DR: He’s kind, spiritual, and deeply into me — but jobless, emotionally overwhelming, and leans on me hard. I care, but I don’t feel peace. He said he won’t top pursuing because he doesn’t wanna lose me but it just doesn’t make sense to me right now. Would you stay or step away?