Need your perspective on my recent breakup

I think the title is what I want or honestly don't know what I need. I guess I wanted some opinions on what to do now or how to go about thinking it and healing. It's still so fresh since its only been 2 and a half days ago since my breakup. But the reason is basically that she was busy, we didn't hang out for 2 months no text no call, we didn't communicate. I think partially me to blame for not trying harder to communicate and always being patient and waiting for her to reach out since she was the busy one.

Because we didn't hang out call text or anything, she questioned whether it was even a relationship and any point of entertaining it further. She said that my heart was in it more than her and things had changed for her and she couldn't afford to make any more sacrifices with school and work. She said she never wanted to date in the first place but still gave it a try. And the last thing is just her saying that she thinks I deserve better or someone who can give that time and effort because she can't. Nor does she want to put in the effort. And would rather be friends so she doesn't throw all the good memories away and doesn't want to lose me. Finally combined with the fact that we are in two different stages of life, she still has one more year left of college and I just graduated and we will be in two different locations.

I don't mean to paint her in a bad light, I think she truly did care about me. I was a lucky one who got closure and got the truth which I believe her reasoning. It's hard going pre-med route and being a STEM major. At our last call the night after the breakup, she cried a little and we just ended after she started crying. For more context we knew each other since last November. Started dating in late April and ended Aug.

I guess I'm not sure how to go about it. Sure I'll find better out there, but its such a bummer I don't want to think about finding another person for a long time because I thought we had such a unique chemistry and someone you don't find everyday. Every second I'm not doing anything I just think about it a lot. What do you guys think about her wanting to be friends and everything? I told her no not right now and maybe in the future. And in a sense, I think her reasoning or break-up is valid. You can't force someone to want to put effort. They'd only be more unhappy. And I don't think its oh I don't like you or I didn't choose you or you weren't the one, it sounded like she was genuinely tired and busy and couldn't put in her mental capacity. And she said she doesn't see herself dating anyone for a long time and doesn't want to do any commitments as long as she's busy. Or maybe I'm defending her?