She ended up installing a camera in her room and when I went in to pack her things, she texted me that “she doesn’t want this to escalate into a legal matter.”




Original post: My family (husband and 2 young children) and I took in a friend that was falling on some hard times back in May, long story short she made some very bad choices (bringing over bfs, drug use, disrespecting our religion, etc.) and we are having to kick her out for these reasons as well as needing the room back for our 1 year old son, he’s been having a hard time sharing a room with his sister. 

She has not paid rent to us ever, but she has her things here including her cat. She’s been out living with her boyfriend in San Diego for 2 to 3 weeks, but has left her belongings and her cat here. He has said that she is becoming increasingly violent and unstable, throwing glass bongs at his head and drink cups and yelling at his grandmother and showing up unannounced. She’s not on the lease, but a few pieces of mail have come here with her name on them. 

I would like to know what my options are because she’s saying that I can’t legally kick her out at least without proper notice. She says she has no other place to stay, her mom lives very close to us and I’ve contacted her about this situation to see if she would help but she hasn’t responded. 

I have served a 30 day notice just in case even though I don’t know where she is at the moment.

We’re short on money so I would really like to not have this be a huge court battle with an eviction. I can’t afford legal fees right now but would like her gone, I don’t want my kids to be a part of that. Please let me know what I can do. Thank you all for reading

Friend is becoming violent and unstable- UPDATE