My trauma healing hit a wall - 2 years post-breakup

I've done everything I can think of to heal after a toxic, trauma-bonded relationship - but I’m still stuck.

My ex had high dark triad traits. Our relationship ended over 2 years ago, but I just found out recently that he cheated on me back then, which re-opened so many old wounds.

Since the breakup, I’ve:

1. Studied narcissism and trauma bonding
2. Practiced CBT and positive affirmations
3. Shifted from anxious attachment to more secure
4. Built my self-worth
5. Forgiven him and myself

Still, I get triggered. I think about him every day. Some irrational part of me still hopes he’ll reach out, even though I don’t want him back. I don’t even respect him. I just want this cycle to stop.

If you’ve broken free from trauma-bonded thinking or emotional addiction like this - how did you actually stop thinking about them? What coping strategies worked after you did the self-work?