ABYG kasi hindi ko makita yung rason bakit gusto ako hiwalayan ng boyfriend ko?

I, 21F, and my bf, 20M, have been together for a year. We had a bumpy road, and at some points, we got into big arguments. I get along well with his college friends, but his HS friends, not so much. They called me crazy after a fight with him previously, and after fixing things, I made him cut them off. I could not take the disrespect. They said many things, but crazy is practically the summary of it.

Fast forward, January 2025, they reconnected. I let it be since it has been so long but I always felt like they're always going to say something about me. this leads to their handouts being mostly me being anxious while he's outside, but I try my best to self regulate.

before the fight during Tuesday morning, we were fine. I even accompanied him to his professor to sort things out and he was very happy about the help that I gave him and even treated me the food and took me home. He went to dance practice and then went home and played with his friends.

Tuesday evening him and his friends were playing around the game in Valorant. there was only three of them so it was OK to play and after a round, one of their other friends joined. To preface they are a group of four guys so they wanted to look for the fifth member since the game doesn't allow you to play the game with just 4 people. mind you they know that I was watching this game through streaming in discord. they even said hi to me. and then they chose to invite a girl that my boyfriend used to talk to. they weren't that serious, but what I realized is that they knew about their past and they knew I was watching and they still chose to invite the girl. I felt as if after our past conflict they're doing it on purpose.

I told my boyfriend about my sentiments how I didn't feel comfortable and he said he understood, but he didn't leave the game immediately because it's a ranked game. I just wanted to get it over with so I said don't worry about it anymore since he left the game anyway.

but suddenly he lashed out saying why am I acting like this and why am I disregarding the problem, and then he said that he will go to sleep, but I know that he just played with his friends and turned off his status.

I slept afterwards cause I felt like it was a minor issue and the next day he didn't even try to talk to me. I asked him why he wasn't chatting me and he said that he didn't wanna talk to me anymore. I was wondering what the issue was because I felt that the previous issue was such a minor problem compared to everything that we went through for the last year. And we just spent our monthsary together. we had a very fun date and we exchanged gifts and suddenly issues arise that I don't even know about.

he said that I won't ever understand him and that we hang out too much. I was wondering where all of this came from after the issue, it was all about his friends and he said that I'm picking fights over nothing and that it has been a year and that I cannot forgive what has happened over a year ago and that I'm always clinging to past. but I am not going to the past it's just that they disrespected me and I chose to forgive my boyfriend, but not the friends. I respected the fact that they have known each other for over six years now and I let them reconnect. but this is the very reason why I don't like them.

A year ago the issue was my boyfriend. Wanted to take another girl to her house just out of courtesy for being long time friends. however, this is his first time having a girlfriend since getting a car and I didn't feel comfortable about the idea at all and so I put some boundaries so that this will not happen but his friends encouraged him and tolerated him and said that there's nothing wrong I come to find out about two weeks later that he lied to me and said that he didn't take her home, but he actually did and the girl actually had feelings for him. He said that he didn't know at the time, but of course, as always my intuition was right.

Now we haven't talked in about two days. last night, I asked him what his plan was if he'd be happier if I wasn't around. I was low-key crashing out because we haven't talked all day and he hasn't reached out. And then I was asking him what he wanted to do and he said that he didn't want the relationship anymore so that he won't ever hear anything from me ever again. I said I'd give him space if it means that will fix the issues, but he replied with I don't know, baby. And that's about it.

He hasn't left our discord server and he hasn't left Life360. He hasn't deleted me anywhere not even in Instagram highlights.

what should I do? Should I wait for him? I don't know if I was wrong in anyway, but none of my friends are saying I'm wrong and they said I was even too calm about the idea of his friends purposefully inviting a girl he used to talk to. They said that it's pretty clear that the friends did it on purpose, knowing that I was watching and they still invited the girl. I love my boyfriend so much and I want to fix things with him, but this is getting too much. I don't do well with distance. It has never taken us even a full 24 hours to not talk after a problem and we have been such a great couple ever since that last falling out we have never had any major issues until today.

The only common denominator from the mass conflict and this one is the friends. I don't even know what to do because I don't feel like I am wrong but he's acting like I wronged him. He said that the reason were like this is because of me and not because of his friends, but I don't believe that I start fights over nothing.

Gago ba ako kasi tingin ko wala akong mali? Nag-sorry ako kahit tingin ko tama ako, pero siya yung ayaw magpatinag.