Why tf do I have to “extend my distress tolerance” how about people stop treating me like shit

I know that bpd can lead to perceived aggression/rejection, don’t come at me in the comments trying to reason with me. I just want to bitch.

My therapist always tells me that I need to work on my “distress tolerance” and have calmer reactions but when my parents who constantly antagonize, ridicule, mock, belittle and straight up emotionally and physically abuse me start their shit I’m not allowed to react and instead need to use my “DBT skills”.

FUCK THAT.

This is fucking bullshit but I have to keep my mouth shut because they pay for my therapy. AS A MEANS OF CONTROL. But I’m not in the situation to be able to pay for my own therapy so I have to shut the fuck up.