New Step-Dad - Mindset Shift

Bit of a long one…

I am a new step-dad to an amazing 2 year old who I adore. I’ve recently found myself spending a lot of time with my partner and her family who are also all amazing and I love it.

My family are a little spread out north and south of where I live (2 hour drive away) and so obviously I see them less anyway, but I have found that when making future plans with them for ‘family events’ I’m often having to go on my own as my partner can’t get the childcare or doesn’t want to leave her elsewhere for that long. It’s not that the child isn’t invited but it’s more adult-themed events/activity.

Am I wrong for feeling a bit bummed that I have to go to these things on my own? Should I expect my family to do more ‘child-friendly’ events now she is around? Has anyone else felt like this and how did you move past it / come to terms with it?