Other trans friend is pissing me off.

I’m a FTM dude, I’ve been out for 8 years. I’m a year on testosterone, my name is getting legally changed soon, and I have plans to get top surgery as soon as we find a surgeon.

My friend has been out for 7 months, maybe. He says he’s been out for 2 years, but really, he detransitions practically bi-weekly. I counted the time he’s ACTUALLY been out as FTM, and it’s around 7 months.

He was upset that I got on testosterone before him, I just told him it takes time and patience. I don’t think he should be on testosterone anyways. He is now.

About two weeks ago he detransitioned and went off testosterone, and went back on it like two days later. Which, is an obvious sign that he needs to wait and not take it until he’s sure.

I told him I’d be possibly getting top surgery if a surgeon approved it and he started crying because my mom will let me get top surgery, and his won’t. Which, if I was his mother? I wouldn’t let him get it either! He can’t stay transitioned for more than a week, you can’t tell me he wouldn’t regret it!

His dysphoria also just randomly disappears like all the time. “Oh, I didn’t actually have any dysphoria. Which is why I’m detransitioning!” So I don’t understand how it keeps coming and going?

I’m getting my name changed in September, which I’ve been hiding from him for now, because I’m sure he’ll get mad that his mom won’t let him get his name changed. But, he chooses a new name every two months, and is constantly detransitioning! His mom is correct!