35M BD walked in on me 35F watching porn, now wants nothing to do with me and asked me to move out — I’m 6 months pregnant

Hi, I’m new here. My BD is often on Reddit, so I thought I’d give it a try. We’re 35-year-old first-time parents, and I’m currently six months pregnant.

Pregnancy has been wild—I’ve definitely felt my hormones all over the place. Before we got pregnant, we had a very active sex life—we could even go up to twice a day, several days a week. We’ve only been together since October 2024, so it’s still a fairly new relationship. (Known eachother since highschool)

The point is, he’s expressed that he’s not attracted to me with my belly and feels uncomfortable, like our bodies just can’t connect. I can understand that—I don’t feel like my usual self either.

Lately, I’ve been telling him how much I miss how things used to be and how much I still desire him. We’re both very affectionate—he compliments me, reassures me often, we cuddle, and he’s very loving toward me. I swear, sometimes I feel like I want to crawl under his skin just to be closer, but I don’t bring it up much because I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable.

Last night, I acted on impulse. I opened a porn site and started touching myself. He had previously confided in me that he struggled with porn addiction and had stopped watching it altogether this past summer. Knowing it’s a sensitive topic for him, I felt awkward bringing it up. The truth is, we never really talked about it before like the boundaries of it all.

He walked in on me and was visibly upset. My door was unlocked, and he was just in another room—it’s not like I was trying to hide it. I honestly didn’t think much of it. But it was like his entire perception of me changed in that moment, and I instantly felt shame and guilt.

I don’t think poorly of porn—I believe it can be okay in moderation if that’s what someone chooses. I admit it gives me the ick after, but I mostly see it as a means to an end. I’m not an avid porn watcher by any means.

He went down a rabbit hole, he took my phone and searched through it as if to find proof that I’d been unfaithful. He found some old videos and pictures of a previous relationship I had years ago and became even more upset. He called me promiscuous and has continued to express his disgust.

I do wish I’d been more open and told him about my feelings and desires beforehand—but none of this was planned. I know watching porn can be frowned upon, and I understand why it can be upsetting. I regret not having a conversation first.

Today, he told me he no longer sees me the same way. He says I live a double life and has asked me to move out. At this point, I don’t even feel like arguing. I just want to focus on having a healthy pregnancy and being a good mother to our baby.

I’m very confused and hurt about the whole situation and was wondering if anyone else has been through something similar?