how do i stop being a lazy slob?

i’m 19 but don’t act like an adult at all. i have entomophobia and have to get my parents to kill large bugs and spiders because i won’t touch them myself. i can’t drive due to anxiety i get on the road, which got worse the more i practiced. i only work part time on weekends.

i can’t shake the fact my nt sister is disappointed in me because i don’t act my age. i feel like i should move out because then i would be forced to rely on myself.

i’m a GROWN WOMAN scared of spiders, cockroaches, and will cry when any large bug is on me. what the actual hell is wrong with me?